I second what Courtney says; I just logged on to post a link to Heather Corinna's "readiness checklist" on Scarleteen. Thought it might give you some ideas about what questions to explore with your partner prior to physical intimacy. (posted to The First Time in a Relationship)
Check out Feminism and Christianity: An Essential Guide by Lynn Japinga. It's a good introduction/overview of the issues and major thinkers in feminist theology. (Full disclosure, Lynn was a professor of mine in undergrad). It's a good source to figure (posted to Feminism with my faith?)
if you enjoy comics/graphic novels, check out alison bechdel's 'dykes to watch out for' and her memoir 'fun home.' both are awesome. (posted to Lesbian Literature -- Does It Exist?)
@Perrin12, I'd love to see your list of YA lgbt books; I'm always looking for new stuff to add to my reading list and Ya lit is great for reading on my commute! My email is feministlibrarian (at) gmail (dot) (posted to Lesbian Literature -- Does It Exist?)
For what it's worth, I'd say focus on individual people and who you are and are not attracted to sexually, rather than attempting to make broad generalizations about what your sexual orientation is. I realize in our culture this isn't (posted to Am I *really* a lesbian?)
I think maybe you might want to try this from a different approach, since the one you're at is leading you to confusion and not clarity. That is, what do you think is keeping you from being with women? Is (posted to Am I *really* a lesbian?)
I think the question is more, do you want to have/ like having sex with women? Or is it only men? Or both? I think attraction is one thing, but when the rubber meets the road, what is it you (posted to Am I *really* a lesbian?)
I would echo this. Most people are probably attracted at least somewhat to both sexes, even those are purely heterosexual, yet they still only actually want to have sex and/or a relationship with one or the other. So instead of (posted to Am I *really* a lesbian?)
I know how you feel! I find it confusing because I think that my attraction to women might stem partly from the fact that most women are socialised to compare their own attractiveness to other women, which means that women (posted to Am I *really* a lesbian?)
i'm glad to see that these comments are, for the most part, so supportive of you finding our own identity and not people trying to find that label for you. it seems your family is doing the opposite. sometimes the (posted to Am I *really* a lesbian?)
