I can't believe I missed this thread earlier!!! Almost two years after my wedding I have the following pieces of advice: 1. Be solid in your decisions, but be ready to defend them - people still lecture me, or blatantly (posted to Adventures in Feminist Wedding Planning)
I think that is a really interesting phenomena... and I find it interesting that I came across this today, as we just had our second female military member from Canada die in Afghanistan yesterday. The first was three years ago. (posted to The Combat Within: Female Veterans and PTSD Benefits)
I am married, and kept my own name. There is alot of resistence to women not changing their name (people purposefully calling Mr Hislastname, or telling me that I have made the wrong decision... But I react but consistent correction, (posted to Being a Rapp: Marraige, Names & Feminism)
What is also interesting is that in Saskatchewan at least, the Catholic divisions are allowed to favour Catholic teachers over other teachers, so they are discriminating based on religion. It is protected in the Education Act. (posted to Substitute teacher fired because he is transgender)
This is an extremely passionate topic for me, as I was married 2.5 years ago, and I am still getting people who feel they should weigh in on my choice to keep my name. People who have purposefully (although knowing (posted to What's in a name? (A lot))
Question: My last name is definitely my dad's name, for my own view and personal experience. When you say, "my boyfriend's name is always his and never his father's" - how have you seen/experienced that? Statement: My name, like most (posted to What's in a name? (A lot))
FYI, Picasso was Pablo's mom's maiden name. Also, I changed my name after giving it a lot of thought. Nobody I knew in my family except my dad had my last name, and my dad was not very nice to (posted to What's in a name? (A lot))
Mamram, It's interesting you view your boyfriend taking your name as being "dependent." Do you view yourself taking his name as you being "dependent"? Does he? Is dependency a bad thing? (posted to What's in a name? (A lot))
Ben Zimmer (the language expert) writes on the history of Ms. in the NYT: http://www.nytimes.com/2009/10/25/magazine/25FOB-onlanguage-t.html?_r=1 and in VT: http://www.visualthesaurus.com/cm/wordroutes/2043/ (posted to What's in a name? (A lot))
I think if you are really taking about freedom it should be a choice and to each their own, which should be respected by all including society. There are reasons why people take their spouses name. I did and (posted to What's in a name? (A lot))
