Boundaries, though we may lobby for their use and application as helpful, are frequently subjectively applied. With my own trauma, I acknowledge freely that I probably don't set boundaries as strictly as I probably should. By contrast, I've known other (posted to Ask Professor Foxy: How Do I Tell New Partners About Past Trauma?)
My take on Tiger Woods: What we're talking about and what we're not talking about (again). (posted to Weekly Feminist Reader)
The opposite side of this is, is it right for me to be blamed for the sins of my parents or grandparents when I have not contributed to the problem myself? But getting back to your question, I think of (posted to Claiming a history vs. appropriation)
On the post about productive conversations about race, I thought I'd add that the intent by many allies is never to invalidate or lessen the unique struggles of those who have been marginalized. However, we might consider when we make (posted to Weekly Feminist Reader)
"If a fifteen year old "knows" in her mind that she is "okay" if she's not having sex, that's not going to mean a damn thing if all of her friends are doing it and talking about how much fun (posted to Weekly Feminist Reader)
Is the problem with the "madonna v. whore" dichotomy the fact that it makes a distinction based on sexual practice, or the fact that it does so in a gender-loaded way which deliberately debases women and makes sex "dirty" (as (posted to Weekly Feminist Reader)
Once again, I can't tell if this is for real or a satire -- but a couple of paragraphs of the FAQ were more than enough for me to decide I'm not willing to invest the hours necessary to determine (posted to So Let's See What Manhood101 has got)
If they really have this on their website, can't we report it to the appropriate sources for advocating violence against women, which is illegal? (posted to So Let's See What Manhood101 has got)
I'm not talking about authority figures saying, "Har-de-har, don't have sex, because Bob the Builder says that abstinence is GROOVY!" I'm talking about recognizing that adults have a major play in what teenagers and younger adults perceive of as "normal" (posted to Weekly Feminist Reader)
