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• I know everyone is latching on to your points about beauty, but I thought this was equally spot on: "and as sexually adventurous as a porn character without violating her boundaries" That is almost more prevalent than the beauty thing
  (posted to Effortless Perfection)
• I've had to learn that to an extent too. Still I wonder though, if you were attractive "ENOUGH" maybe they wouldn't need to get to know you first? I've felt that maybe I'm cute enough to interest guys if they
  (posted to Effortless Perfection)
• I'm disturbed by a couple of assumptions both of you two are making. You both sound young, so I'm thinking that's part of it: First, that male sexuality is inherently violent (at least that's what I got from it). Why
  (posted to Pornography Vs Reality)
• But that's still putting people in boxes, that's just giving people more boxes to choose from. I think for some people, their sexuality shifts over their life. I think for some people, romance and sexuality cannot be separated as easily
  (posted to Putting the "I" in "Bisexual")
• Melissa, I find your argument oversimplifying, as well. In my life experience, by the sorts of people who would even be judgmental about these things (which is not everyone) female genitalia are usually concerned as gross or grosser than male
  (posted to The Male Gaze and the Beauty of the Female Form)

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• The responses, by and large, are not to your post. I agree with your post. The male gaze is damaging to both men and women, and by far affects women more, no comparison. I'm with you on the inability of (posted to The Male Gaze and the Beauty of the Female Form)
• Lisa said "After all, someone who assumes that the sight of a naked man cannot cause arousal is clearly not concerned with the arousal of his own sexual partners. The assumption that the male body cannot be a turn-on for (posted to The Male Gaze and the Beauty of the Female Form)
• Men won't suffer problems of anorexia and bulimia for a simple reason: Being very thin for a male is seen as a bad thing. I can say that as a transsexual woman who has experienced both sides of people's comments (posted to The Male Gaze and the Beauty of the Female Form)
• Furthermore, men are not encouraged to change their bodies in order to appeal to women. They take for granted that male bodies are not as attractive as female ones, but are only rarely encouraged to lose weight and never encouraged (posted to The Male Gaze and the Beauty of the Female Form)
• I actually know a few het men who crossdress. They do this, primarily, because they think women are so hot, they want to look like one. They're not transgendered, they're not gay, one is overweight and embarrassed to wear a (posted to The Male Gaze and the Beauty of the Female Form)

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