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    <title>Weekly Feminist Reader Open Thread </title>
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    <published>2009-11-22T19:53:28Z</published>
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    <summary>Ann is on vacation this week so we won&apos;t be having our regular Weekly Feminist Reader, but let&apos;s consider this an open thread; please feel free to contribute this week and weekend&apos;s stories we may have missed in comments!...</summary>
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        <![CDATA[<p>Ann is on vacation this week so we won't be having our regular Weekly Feminist Reader, but let's consider this an open thread; please feel free to contribute this week and weekend's stories we may have missed in comments! </p>]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>Ask Professor Foxy: As A Trans Man, How Do I Meet Gay Men?</title>
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    <published>2009-11-22T04:23:45Z</published>
    <updated>2009-11-22T04:26:47Z</updated>

    <summary> This weekly Saturday column &quot;Ask Professor Foxy&quot; will regularly contain sexually explicit material. This material is likely not safe for work viewing. The title of the column will include the major topic of the post, so please read the...</summary>
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        <![CDATA[<p><strong> This weekly Saturday column "Ask Professor Foxy" will regularly contain sexually explicit material. This material is likely not safe for work viewing. The title of the column will include the major topic of the post, so please read the topic when deciding whether or not to read the entire column.</strong></p>

<p><em>Dear Professor Foxy -</p>

<p>I am, when I'm not feeling verbose, a gay trans man, just starting transition. It's taken me long enough to figure that much out and come to terms with it. It has taken me even longer to realize that, actually, I rather like my vagina, and I don't want any of the genital surgeries that are available to trans men. And I have discovered that, after all this self-discovery and acceptance and coming-to-grips, I am still in my early twenties, and I have a hell of a lot of living left to do, so there's not much point in sulking and giving up on things like my sex life.</p>

<p>My problem comes in identifying as a gay man with a vagina. A part of me is resigned to dating exclusively bisexual men for the rest of my life, but there's a nagging fear that they'll only be attracted to the parts of me I'm trying to change. Besides, I tend to be attracted to the more stereotypically gay men. And while I'm well familiar with my local queer community, I barely have a functioning gaydar, much less bi-dar.</p>

<p>I feel like the men I'm trying to date are men who've never seen a vagina before. I tend to be open and up-front about my trans status, but that may be because I don't pass much yet, and it's the easiest way to get someone to use the right pronouns. I'm more than willing to strap it on, but I would prefer a partner who's not going to ignore my vagina. Sometimes it needs to be properly fucked. It doesn't help that even straight men seem to regard vulvas as some sort of great squelchy mystery, and periods as the most disgusting things ever.</p>

<p>So, Professor. If I start to pass more reliably (or, more likely, I just say fuck it and start cruising the gayborhood anyway), how do I find out if a guy will not be repulsed by girly bits while still treating me like the fabulous man I am? If I know an attractive guy is gay, and he knows I am trans, where do we go from here? If we do somehow manage to make our way to the bedroom, is there a Beginner's Guide to Pussies, or Straight Sex for the Gay Man pamphlet I can give him? I'm willing to give the bisexual (and pansexual and trisexual and what-have-you) guys out there a second chance, but I'd still really like to know if there exist gay men who can appreciate female plumbing.</p>

<p>With Hope,<br />
-Reclaiming HIS Cunt</em></p>

<p>Hello RHC -<br />
Thanks for your letter. The first thing is that there are actually a decent amount of gay, bi, and queer trans men out there (I have no stats, but here is an interesting <a href="http://www.janacnet.org">article</a>, just search "trans").  </p>

<p>Additionally, there are a number of affirmative resources for trans men who are attracted to other trans and cis (non-trans) guys, such as www.queertransmen.org, and safer sex resources like James Cullen's "<a href="http://sugrous.wustl.edu/~safezones/safersextransguys.pdf">Safer Sex for Trans Guys</a>."  Also, there are many communities on livejournal and other social networking sites specifically designed for gay, bi and queer trans and cis men.  These online communities may help you connect with other guys who have experienced similar barriers when trying to hook up and/or develop relationships with other guys.</p>

<p>When meeting other guys, there are a lot of things to consider, but first of all keep an open mind about whose type you might be. Many gay cis men will be interested in you. Some won't be, but that's the way attraction works between any two people, regardless of whether one of them is trans. Similarly, many bisexual cis men may be interested in you, and some may not be. </p>

<p>Being open and up front are good things, no matter how much you pass in the future.  Disclosure is important because of personal safety, so you need to find the right moment to do so. I would suggest telling someone when it looks like things may turn sexual but when you are still in a public space. If you get a sense that someone is interested in you specifically because you're trans rather for who you are as a person, it's up to you to decide where your boundaries are. Stay in tune with what feels right for you, and never be afraid to leave a situation that doesn't feel comfortable. Also keep in mind that the gay men's community is used to a certain level of disclosure conversations since the HIV/AIDS epidemic hit.  Like anybody on the dating scene, you will run into some rejections, and that will undoubtedly hurt, but you may also find an amazing man and/or an amazing sexual encounter.  At the end of the day, finding the right person is about connection, commonalities, and mutual interest.  If he's into you and you're into him, terrific; if not, no worries.  Keep your head up and continue to be yourself - you're bound to find a guy who appreciates your honesty, and hopefully you'll appreciate his.</p>

<p>Once you get passed the point of disclosure, it should be easier to express your desires. As one of my gay trans man friends says, "I have a perfectly good self-lubricating hole.  Lots of guys appreciate that."  Ultimately, hot sex, and great relationships are based on open, honest and sometimes tough conversations.  If you can master the disclosure and desires discussions, and the guy you're interested is still on the same page, have fun with him and have fun exploring where your connection leads.  </p>

<p>One last thing to note - there are plenty of sites for gay men looking for sex (manhunt, gay.com and adam4adam being a few of the more popular ones). Sometimes you'll run across trans and cis guys posting ads explicitly stating that they are "FTM" or "trans friendly." Even those that do not clearly label may have affirming language such as "open-minded," and some of the more progressive guys who tend to be open minded identify as queer. Negotiating online can also offer a certain level of anonymity, which may feel safer.  </p>

<p>Good luck!  I'm confident you'll find a man that appreciates all of you, including your cunt and your fabulous manhood!</p>

<p>Best,<br />
Professor Foxy</p>

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<strong>If you have a question for Professor Foxy, send it to ProfessorFoxyATfeministingDOTcom.</strong></p>]]>
        
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    <title>The Feministing Five: Rose Afriyie</title>
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    <published>2009-11-21T22:43:53Z</published>
    <updated>2009-11-23T03:39:31Z</updated>

    <summary>Regular readers will have noticed that in recent months, Feministing has brought in a number of new contributors: Ariel, Jos, Lori, Rose and myself. No doubt you&apos;re getting to know them by reading their posts and engaging with their ideas...</summary>
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        <name>Chloe</name>
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        <![CDATA[<p><span class="mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image" style="display: inline;"><img alt="chocolate high.JPG" src="http://www.feministing.com/chocolate%20high.JPG" width="162" height="287" class="mt-image-left" style="float: left; margin: 0 20px 20px 0;" /></span>Regular readers will have noticed that in recent months, Feministing has brought in a number of new contributors: Ariel, Jos, Lori, Rose and myself. No doubt you're getting to know them by reading their posts and engaging with their ideas in the comments section, but I also suspect that you might want to know a little more about these wonderful women (I know I do!). Over the last few weeks, I've been interviewing my fellow new contributors so that you and I can get to know them a little better. This week, last but not least, I interviewed Rose Afriyie.</p>

<p>Rose is a first generation Ghanaian American who grew up in the Bronx and the Poconos. She got her B.A. at the University of Pittsburgh and is now at the University of Michigan pursuing her Masters in Public Policy, focusing on Science, Technology and Public Policy. Rose is particularly interested in sexuality and in how racial and gender inequities affect access to technology and, in turn, in participation in civic life. She has worked as an organizer with NOW and before she joined the Feministing crew this September, her writing was published in <a href="http://archives.chicagotribune.com/2008/apr/27/news/chi-positive_sexuality_thinkapr27"><em>The Chicago Tribune</em></a> and in her college paper, where she was a sex columnist, which officially makes her the coolest older sister ever (she's one of five siblings).</p>

<p>And now, without further ado, the Feministing Five, with Rose Afriyie.</p>]]>
        <![CDATA[<p><strong>Chloe Angyal: </strong>How did you become involved with feminist activism and writing, and with Feministing specifically?</p>

<p><strong>Rose Afriyie: </strong>I started blogging when I went to Europe last summer, just a small travel blog, writing about what I'd seen and experienced there, because I wanted to have a record of it. And I'd been writing in the college newspaper about sexual health for most of my college career. For me, writing has always been about trying to address, in some way, shape or form, a political question. And the political questions have become clearer as my feminism and political identity has become more developed. But, writing for me is about being able to share some sort of truth that I'm experiencing, or that I feel women are experiencing, or that my community is experiencing. I think it's just a natural thing to want to talk about the things that have happened to you and that have changed you, and to want to see if other people have had the same experience.</p>

<p>Feministing I totally credit to Samhita. I definitely was that young organizer who stole a few minutes everyday to see what was going on and to see what feminists thought was important that day. When I met Samhita this past summer, she was just half-woman, half-amazing. She has this gripping, hardcore analysis on race and on gender. I also learned a lot from her about the Internet and gender. From that experience, I started blogging on the community site, and I started blogging a lot more. The rest is history, I guess. Suddenly I've got this platform, and I'm just so thankful and blessed to have met Samhita, and also to have gotten to know the other badass editors, like Ann and Miriam.</p>

<p><strong>CA:</strong> Who is your favorite fictional heroine?</p>

<p><strong>RA: </strong>Dorothy from The Wiz. It's such a fascinating story of feminism. This woman is travelling around the world - this alternate view of the world, that is - to get back home. Not to get back up under some man, but to get back to her aunt, to her uncle, to her family. And to lead a group of male characters who apparently are lost. It's this idea that this woman is going to lead everybody home. The feminism in that story cannot be disputed.</p>

<p><strong>CA: </strong>Who are your heroines in real life?</p>

<p><strong>RA:</strong> Every woman who's ever survived violence is a heroine in my book. And even those who haven't survived violence - the ones who are enduring injustice every day and are living to tell about it, who are willing to speak their testimony, are my heroes. My mom is a huge heroine to me. I don't tell her this stuff, and she doesn't go online that much, so she might not find out unless I tell her about it, but, hands down, my mom is my hero. She has provided for her kids and has made sacrifices for us in ways that really humble me. It's powerful -- the things women have done to be able to invest in the next generation. I think that's heroic too. And I think it's hard because feminism is about a kind of equality that doesn't always look like investment in the next generation. But I think that it's equally heroic to pursue this hybrid type of equality. So that's why, yes, people who have endured sexism and have lived to tell about it are heroes, but so are those people who have made the ultimate sacrifice so that women like me can make different choices. </p>

<p><strong>CA:</strong> What recent news story made you want to scream?</p>

<p><strong>RA:</strong> What has really been on my mind is the Stupak amendment, and what that says about how negotiable women's rights are, and what a low priority they are. It's not that I think, for a second, that it wasn't going to be imminently dealt with in the Senate. It's about the idea that so many different political actors - Democratic political actors - completely disregard the national constituency of women in America. When I heard about the amendment, I was in a state of political paralysis for days. I can't even really express how upset I was about it, about the fact that Democrats could cheer with that kind of amendment in healthcare reform. That's how completely inconsequential women's rights are. And what does that say about the state of feminism right now, that the amendment could make it in this bill? That everything else could be more important than this? I'm not even an abortion-means-everything kind of person, but what does it mean that this bill could pass to deafening applause, with this restriction in there, without bothering so many people who call themselves pro-choice?</p>

<p><strong>CA:</strong> What, in your opinion, is the biggest challenge facing feminism today?</p>

<p><strong>RA:</strong> I have two roles to play in this. There's what I observe in the movement and there's who I challenge myself to be as a feminist.</p>

<p>For the movement: I think we need to gain more control over how the term feminism is framed. It's really hard to get media coverage that doesn't make the housewife and the head of Planned Parenthood polar opposites. It's really hard to try to embrace complexity, and to try to talk about feminism as a complex strand of beliefs about equality, where many different women have different perspectives about what that looks like. I know that feminism isn't racial justice but I think it's really telling that lots of folk will be able to tell you a little bit about Martin Luther King. They'll be able to tell you a little bit about the Panther party or Malcolm X. And now they'll be able to tell you about Barack Obama. So the Civil Rights movement has all these people factored into this perspective about what racial justice might look like. But feminism doesn't have that in a way that's akin to mainstream recognition. In the eyes of many, it's not a huge space for all these equally legitimate perspectives to exist. And I think that's a really big challenge that has to be addressed.</p>

<p>For myself personally: It is about challenging myself to model feminist practices in my everyday life. It's about balancing feminist lobbying with feminist living. It is clear to me that while I am still marginalized in many ways, I am privileged. It's important for me to utilize any newly acquired privileges, especially on the education front, to fully undertake the project of building a feminist romantic partnership and ultimately a feminist family. That's not to say that I am naïve about the constraints of the work-world. Obviously, work/family balance and economic justice policies will do much to facilitate any feminist family structure I stand a chance of sustaining in the long run. But I have agency. It's true that feminism takes a lot of hits when anti-woman lawmakers write us out of healthcare reform, but feminism also takes hits when I entertain an ain't-shit, anti-equality male partner long past his expiration date. I have a part to play in advocating for equality in my relationships and remembering that I can show someone feminism much better than I can tell them about it. </p>

<p><strong>CA: </strong>You're going to a desert island, and you're allowed to take one food, one drink and one feminist. What do you take?</p>

<p><strong>RA:</strong> I'm going to take fufu and soup, which is a Ghanaian food. I'll also take pineapple juice and Patron - that's all I drink! The feminist that I want to bring is a Ghanaian feminist, a pugnacious feminist, but you've gotta have folks like this in your corner. Her name was Yaa Asantewaa. She was an Ashanti Queen Mother who led a famous rebellion against the British colonizers in Ghana. In my book, her activism ultimately led to Ghana being the first African country on the continent to gain their independence. She's someone I am reminded of when I think about standing up for what I believe in and challenging the status quo. No matter where I am, I need co-signers who will affirm that the status quo needs to be challenged and changed. I also would bring her because when I am far away from my parents or elders in my family, what I miss most is the sound of Twi, the Ghanaian language spoken in my household. Yaa would help me bone up on my Twi skills and never let me forget my roots.</p>]]>
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    <title>What We Missed.</title>
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    <published>2009-11-20T22:41:53Z</published>
    <updated>2009-11-21T00:03:19Z</updated>

    <summary>Sexual harassment is a big problem on the NYC subway. Just a sad story about a young man released from prison after wrongfully serving 17 years for a murder he didn&apos;t commit. Students at UC Berkeley are striking because US...</summary>
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        <![CDATA[<p>Sexual harassment is a <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/20/nyregion/20subway.html?adxnnl=1&ref=todayspaper&adxnnlx=1258736718-xQVMFTzaI0F60Miwzo/GXg">big problem on the NYC subway. </a></p>

<p>Just a sad story about a young man released from prison after wrongfully serving <a href="http://www.google.com/hostednews/ap/article/ALeqM5jd54v1LKXhhUQ3xdCLWBZT3mdqkQD9C3EUO81">17 years for a murder he didn't commit. </a></p>

<p>Students at UC Berkeley are striking because US Regents <a href="http://www.google.com/hostednews/ap/article/ALeqM5gi_1CaTjFsR3j2QntpKsXZY0sP1gD9C3DOT00">has approved a 32% tuition increase. </a></p>

<p>A study from UNFP about why women are <a href="http://www.undispatch.com/node/9179">hit hardest via climate change. </a></p>

<p><a href="http://jezebel.com/5409234/whats-being-taught-in-college-rape-prevention-programs?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+jezebel%2Ffull+%28Jezebel%29&utm_content=Google+Reader">Latoya on what is being taught in college rape protection programs. </a></p>

<p>A ten year old in <a href="http://www.cnn.com/video/data/2.0/video/us/2009/11/16/am.boy.no.pledge.cnn.html">Arkansas is refusing to stand up for the pledge of allegiance until gay marriage is legal.</a> In solidarity my brother. </p>]]>
        
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    <title>Friday Feminist Fuck Yeah: National Women&apos;s Studies Association Conference</title>
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    <published>2009-11-20T21:20:20Z</published>
    <updated>2009-11-20T21:22:01Z</updated>

    <summary> **Also, something I didn&apos;t mention-a shout out to my undergraduate adviser at the Women&apos;s Studies Department at SUNY Albany, Vivien Ng, who I saw after 10 years and facilitated me in finding my feminist courage to speak on intersectionality....</summary>
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<p>**Also, something I didn't mention-a shout out to my undergraduate adviser at the Women's Studies Department at SUNY Albany, <a href="http://www.albany.edu/ws/vng.html">Vivien Ng</a>, who I saw after 10 years and facilitated me in finding my feminist courage to speak on intersectionality. </p>]]>
        <![CDATA[<p>This weeks Friday Feministing Fuck Yeah goes out to the <a href="http://www.nwsa.org/">National Women's Studies Association Conference</a> which was last weekend in Atlanta, GA and I was there with Miriam and Courtney, and we have a really good time. I had a really transformative experience this year meeting several really well known feminist theorists that have influenced my work over the years including <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Angela_Davis">Angela Davis</a>, <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kimberl%C3%A9_Williams_Crenshaw">Kimberle Crenshaw</a> and <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chandra_Talpade_Mohanty">Chandra Talpade Mohanty</a>. If you haven't read any of their work please check it out as soon as possible. This years theme was intersectionality, which is a theme that is very close to my heart and very much at the core of the work we seek to do at Feministing and I myself seek to do in my academic work and in my professional work at Feministing. There was a lot of talk about ways to integrate intersectionality into the different kinds of work we can do as feminists and really moving to this understanding that we are all located at different places and how we can bring that to a collective feminist consciousness. </p>

<p>So to had the opportunity to really think about that and being around young people that are really engaged in this topic was invaluable. I am so thankful for all the academic feminists that came before me and cleared the ground for me to do the work I do now. So fuck yeah to the NWSA and thank you so much for continuing your commitment to academic feminism and bridging the divide between gender, race, sexuality, ability, age, gender identity and feminism. Without that work we would have nothing to build off of, so fuck yeah. </p>]]>
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    <title>Suicide ends transgender lives too</title>
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    <published>2009-11-20T20:23:00Z</published>
    <updated>2009-11-20T20:24:13Z</updated>

    <summary>The focus of Transgender Day of Remembrance is on those killed by others because of anti-trans fear and hatred. However, it is worth noting that too many trans folks lose their lives to suicide as well. The number of trans...</summary>
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        <name>Jos</name>
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        <![CDATA[<p>The focus of Transgender Day of Remembrance is on those killed by others because of anti-trans fear and hatred. However, it is worth noting that too many trans folks lose their lives to suicide as well. The number of trans folks who have attempted suicide ranges from about 30 percent to over 50 percent <a href="http://www.transactiveonline.org/documents/suicide_prevention_trans_youth.htm">in studies</a>. One study found that 83 percent of trans folks have considered suicide. According to another study: <blockquote>the risk factors associated with attempted suicide among transgender people were younger age (under 25), depression or a history of substance abuse, forced sex, and gender-based victimization and discrimination (Clements-Nolle, Marx, & Katz, 2006).</blockquote>LGBT youth are <a href="http://www.thetrevorproject.org/info.aspx">up to four times more likely</a> to commit suicide than their straight peers, and that number balloons to nine times more likely if they are rejected by their family. </p>

<p>I <a href="http://www.feministing.com/archives/018927.html">turned 25 this week</a>, a day I thought I would never see for much of my life. For me birthdays have become a time to reflect on how grateful I am to myself and everyone who has supported me in staying alive. I understand this may sound like a pretty depressing way to spend a birthday for someone who has not struggled with suicidal ideation, but for me it is honestly the most positive and affirming way I know how to celebrate. </p>

<p>I've had a lot of conversations with other trans and gender non-conforming folks about our histories with suicide. It's proved a surprisingly easy conversation to enter into with trans folks I hardly know. We have our own unique experiences, but what we share makes having a history with suicide easily understandable.</p>

<p>Trans youth face <a href="http://www.glsen.org/cgi-bin/iowa/all/library/record/2388.html?state=research&type=research">high rates of exceptionally cruel harassment</a> in school, even higher than lesbian, gay, and bi youth. That's in addition to all too common rejection by families and broader communities. And that's for the youth who are able to come out in some way. I could not have been counted in a study about trans youth in high school because I lacked any words or concepts to understand my gender identity. Now I look back on my childhood and teen years through a gender lens and gain a much greater understanding of my life experience. Back then I didn't know how to process my reality. I knew I didn't fit into the world around me as everyone around me seemed to understand it. I felt the psychic pain of knowing people didn't see me as myself at the same time I didn't know how to express who or even what I was. I didn't know I shared these feelings and experiences with anyone else, so I felt isolated, alone, and wrong. Verbal bullying was the more common experience, but getting beaten up were the only moments I felt recognized and seen. I hated my body (and again, didn't understand why) and bruises felt like the only accurate physical representation of who I actually was. I remember the hurt when friends said, for example, that they saw me as "asexual." Their intent was not malicious - they were trying to process their experience of my gender without needed concepts just like I was. And like me they processed the fact I didn't fit into an unquestionable gender system by effectively erasing my identity.</p>

<p>It's very hard to live when you and those around you are convinced you don't exist.</p>

<p>Lowering the suicide rate among trans folks requires the same sort of work that will best combat violent crimes committed by other people against trans folks. We need to do a lot of consciousness raising work to spread awareness of the very existence of trans folks. Sadly knowing we exist is not enough - we must also convince people that trans folks are human, that our lives have value. And this requires convincing people that their limited conceptions of gender are not all there is, a massive undertaking given the widespread unquestioning acceptance of the compulsory gender binary. In other words, we need to change our cultural understanding of and approach to gender in order to bring about social change. Because no trans person should die at their own hands or anyone else's because of their gender.</p>

<p>For more information, resources, and help staying alive: <br />
<a href="http://hellocruelworld.net/">Kate Bornstein's Hello, Cruel World: 101 Alternatives to Suicide for Teens, Freaks & Other Outlaws</a><br />
<a href="http://www.thetrevorproject.org/home2.aspx">The Trevor Project</a></p>]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>Precious, my Precious: Black Female Citizenship, Complexity, and the Politics of Unrelenting Survival </title>
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    <published>2009-11-20T18:53:42Z</published>
    <updated>2009-11-20T21:30:59Z</updated>

    <summary>[Editor&apos;s Note] I haven&apos;t seen Precious yet, but I have read about it endlessly and already cried just reading reviews. One of the most powerful interpretations I have read so far on Precious comes from my good friend, colleague and...</summary>
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        <name>Samhita</name>
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        <![CDATA[<p>[Editor's Note] <em>I haven't seen Precious yet, but I have read about it endlessly and already cried just reading reviews. One of the most powerful interpretations I have read so far on Precious comes from my good friend, colleague and mentor <a href="http://centerformediajustice.org/home/about/staff/">Malkia Cyril from the Center for Media Justice</a>. With her permission I am posting it in full here (<a href="http://centerformediajustice.org/2009/11/20/precious-my-precious-black-female-citizenship-complexity-and-the-politics-of-unrelenting-survival/">cross-posted from the CMJ blog</a>). It was also posted at <a href="http://www.wimnonline.org/WIMNsVoicesBlog/2009/11/16/precious-my-precious-black-female-citizenship-complexity-and-the-politics-of-unrelenting-survival/">WIMNblog. </a></em></p>

<p>As I sit against the florescence of the television screen, watching the conservative Fox News pundit Glenn Beck drive political nails into progressive leaders using the fear of U.S. blacks and immigrants of color as his hammer, my memory harkens back to the year in which the book Push was set, 1987. During that time, eugenics theories about the inherent laziness and criminality of black teenagers was rampantly resurgent in the news. Conservative research was cementing stereotypes of the black welfare queen, the crack baby, the HIV infected black woman as the truth that justified the destruction of the safety net as we knew it. Since then, health care has become increasingly privatized. Welfare has turned horrifically to an indentured servitude of workfare. The numbers of black women with HIV have skyrocketed. And the movie Precious, based on the book Push by Sapphire, was released.</p>

<p><strong>Caricatures or Complex Characters?</strong><br />
Clarice "Precious" Jones is an extreme character, meant to shock the senses and unveil the underbelly of the brutality of racism and capitalism in the patriarchal land of the free. In the film and in the book, Precious is a dark-skinned teenaged girl who experiences multiple forms of oppression and violence at the hands of multiple perpetrators. In the movie, her sexually brutal father is an invisible or blurry character at best, while her mother, whose victimization as a woman was only alluded to, is cast as the primary perpetrator. It is only through the extreme telling of an extreme story that this dichotomy of inequity is revealed. There is only one man in the story as told in the movie - a male nurse- and the welfare and education systems which oppress black womanhood and subvert black female resistance are cast as saviors. Questions have been necessarily raised by black audiences -is this story the best way to reveal these contradictions? Is the mother the real villain? Does the story reflect reality or is it more of a caricature? And if a caricature how does that shape the impact of the film on the representations of black women in media and in the public psyche?</p>]]>
        <![CDATA[<p>I have known many black girls afflicted by multiple forms of abuse, compounded by addiction and illness. I have watched black women beat their children to bloody pulps in the street, cursing them the whole time. I have heard black mothers threaten to cut their daughter's pussy out to prevent them from having sex. I have witnessed black women trade their daughters for crack. I have heard and seen so many things. And I have also seen those same exact women place themselves in front of a fist to save their daughters. I have watched those black mothers walk the hoe stroll for hours to make enough money to feed and house and clothe their babies, as they struggled to overcome addiction. I have watched, in my own home, my own beautiful black mother struggle with the decision to keep her man and have an adult life or protect her daughters and live for her children. Eventually, she chose the latter, though not soon enough. My mother was alone from the time I was about 14 to her death in 2005. That's almost 20 years of intimate solitude in an effort to stand between her black daughters and the world of violence that waited for us in and beyond our home because she did not know how to manage both the safety of her children and her needs as a woman. These characters, Precious and her mother, are not simple caricatures, and yet the film chose some truths over others, and must be interrogated. This is by no means an exhaustive review, or a review of any kind. It's what came for me after watching the film.</p>

<p><strong>Black Womanhood and Complexity</strong><br />
Can you imagine that patriarchal colonialism and a generational experience of slavery can result in an experience of powerlessness and shame that can twist the mind and give rise to the belief that your three-year-old child has stolen your man? Can you imagine that there are black and brown girls, and boys, all over this world, that have HIV, have been raped by their father, sexually and physically abused by their mother, failed by the school system and exploited by the welfare system. And that these girls are brilliant and beautiful and full of unrealized promise- as are their mothers. These women are two sides of one coin, mother and daughter. Both trapped in different ways, both villainized by "culture of poverty" research, and exploited by the economic system and the civil institutions that touch and shape the daily texture of their lives.</p>

<p><strong>The Narrative of Black Female Citizenship</strong><br />
This set of contradictions, this opening of an unhealed national and international wound, is not a mere regurgitation of racist and sexist images. There is a real untold story here, and the voice of that child and the voice of her mother need to be heard. They need to be heard because it is our silence on issues of sexual abuse and systemic violence that allows the space for the empire's story about us to be the only one told. We do not control our media and cultural systems or the institutions of civil society, and therefore the narrative of black female citizenship has been used in so many ways as the lynchpin to justify the most brutal democracy in the world. The lies that our citizenship is somehow a gift and not a right, that our mothers are responsible for the socialization of black children and therefore the cause of their incarceration, and that our daughters have drained and massacred the economy, have justified mass incarceration, war, the privatization of social services and health care, and the defunding of public education. The same has been done to black men, using different stereotypes. But this, right here, is about black women.</p>

<p>Let's talk about education. It was a strong thread that bound this plot together through the realization of the unrelenting power of words. In the book Push, the transformation of Precious occurs over the course of more than a year. Her increasing sense of pride and self-worth is tied directly to her increasing ability to read. Literacy is a powerful thing. It increases one's ability to navigate and transform the physical, political, and economic conditions we find ourselves subject to. The ability to express one's story, to know that it will be witnessed, is as powerful a motivation for transformation as any. Why did the leaders of the Cuban revolution begin by increasing the literacy of the poor? For the same reason that Venezuela has placed so much import on democratizing their media system. Because the power of literacy, media or otherwise, is foundational for social change. The fact that the conductor of the orchestra in this case was a black lesbian added depth and complexity to the story of black women being told in the film. The depiction of black lesbians as allies to heterosexual black women was a blessing that brought tears to my eyes.</p>

<p><strong>Hollywood vs. Our Stories</strong><br />
All this being said, the Hollywood version of the book absolutely invisibilized patriarchy, cast the system as a hero and not an actor responsible for the conditions of oppression in which Precious lived and survived, and over-simplified Precious' mother as an animal who fed her child to the wolves. The movie's flaws are real, and knowing that the film was being viewed by white middle class audiences whose ability to discern the notes in this song was minimal, was painful to experience.</p>

<p>It doesn't make the story less powerful, less revealing, or less necessary. But it does leave room for the next telling to make these contradictions less nuanced, the complexity more stark. For U.S. born blacks mitigated by a history of slavery and colonial violence, complexity is the name of the game. And though I am tired of our black mothers, whose internalized shame and experience of powerlessness sometimes results in extraordinary brutality, being cast in roles that are either victim or villain, and never as the complex intersection of both, never as victor- I was stunned to joyful silence by the numbers of young black girls and boys I saw in the theatre. This is a complicated conversation that is rarely had in our families or classrooms, and even more rarely had in public. And it needs to be had.</p>

<p><strong>Unrelenting Survival</strong><br />
In 1987, I was 13, and the book Push changed my life. I identified in some ways with the experience of Precious. I remember the tenements, the crack houses, the emergence of AIDS and the way both devastated family connection. I recall the news, the myth of the teenaged super-predator, the labels of crack baby, welfare mother, the images of addiction and violence that shaped so many black children's understanding of themselves. and then there are things I won't talk about, that make me proud to watch Precious survive, and her mother repent, on the screen. Because I understand the untenable choices black girls and women feel, and are, forced to make.</p>

<p>Today I am 35, and I am grateful for those precious black and brown children, those daughters of this nation's dust, those human queens subjected to -and the perpetrators of-inhuman cruelty. Because with each individual survival there is a greater chance of our collective survival and transformation. And that is a story, a historical legacy that is the journey in my feet, the ancestor at my back, and the bitter at the bottom of capitalism's cup. We are our mothers' daughters, more than the sum of empire's history, and our mothers are no worse than human. That is the story that needs to be told. Sapphire is one of hundreds of writers who pull back the veil on black female citizenship to reveal the abject bullshit of this democracy's contract, place humanity back into the narrative, and open the door for complexity. Tell the truth, in all its complexity, regardless of the dominant group's watchful gaze. And even when Hollywood distorts the tale, we will, by our own honest hands, set ourselves free.</p>

<p>Cause we are watching too. And this, precious, is for you. <br />
<div style="text-align: right;">--<em>Malkia Cyril</em></div></p>

<p>Related:<br />
<a href="http://www.feministing.com/archives/018679.html">On Representation: Push versus Precious</a><br />
<a href="http://www.feministing.com/archives/018160.html">Bad-Ass Woman: Actress Gabby Sidibe</a><br />
<a href="http://www.feministing.com/archives/017819.html">Precious: A Feminist Must-See</a><br />
<a href="http://www.feministing.com/archives/015458.html">Precious</a><br />
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<entry>
    <title>Kate Moss, &quot;Nothing tastes as good as being thin feels...&quot;</title>
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    <published>2009-11-20T16:44:26Z</published>
    <updated>2009-11-20T17:01:33Z</updated>

    <summary>What a sad state of affairs. Well, I disagree Kate! But then again, I don&apos;t make millions off of being thin, so I guess starving does feel good for her, since she is paid to do it. Seriously, sad! Food...</summary>
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        <name>Samhita</name>
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        <![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/celebritynews/6602430/Kate-Moss-Nothing-tastes-as-good-as-skinny-feels.html">What a sad state of affairs.</a> Well, I disagree Kate! But then again, I don't make millions off of being thin, so I guess starving does feel good for her, since she is paid to do it. Seriously, sad! Food is good and we need it to survive. </p>

<p>This makes me feel sad for Kate Moss, I mean, even though I know she is rich and famous and got to make out with Johnny Depp, but she is the product of a system that values thinness over her other attributes. And a pretty high value at that, since she is one of the top paid super models. It would be nice to think that maybe privately her self worth is not also based on what she looks like, but if her motto is, "nothing tastes as good as skinny feels," one would think the opposite. I also can't believe she is so detached from reality that she doesn't realize that young women that are already plagued with eating disorders look up to her and has no sense of public responsibility. Young women don't need to hear that eating less will make them skinny and therefore a super model. Bad. Bad!</p>

<p><a href="http://community.feministing.com/2009/11/nothing-tastes-as-good-as-skin.html">As community blogger minerva put it,</a></p>

<blockquote>Moss may or may not be intelligent, I neither know nor care. But at some level, she must realize that young women aspire to be like her. It saddens me that she truly believes that her motto is something to be emulated.</blockquote>

<p>Food is good. These types of comments do have implications for young women since we are already inundated with the self hating culture of starvation to attain absurd levels of thinness instead of being taught to love ourselves. And then, often women are rewarded for their self hating behavior. It is an endless cycle that must stop and we need role models to help us. </p>]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>National Day of Action Against Stupak-Pitt Amendment</title>
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    <published>2009-11-20T15:10:32Z</published>
    <updated>2009-11-20T15:32:50Z</updated>

    <summary>Courtney mentioned in yesterday&apos;s What We Missed that the Senate HCR bill does not have the same vicious right-wing vitriol of the Stupak-Coathanger Amendment. mcjoan at DailyKos has a full break down of some of the key provisions in the...</summary>
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        <name>Samhita</name>
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        <![CDATA[<p>Courtney mentioned in yesterday's What We Missed that the Senate HCR bill does not have the same vicious right-wing vitriol of the Stupak-Coathanger Amendment. <a href="http://www.dailykos.com/story/2009/11/19/806044/-The-Senate-HCR-Abortion-Provision">mcjoan at DailyKos</a> has a full break down of some of the key provisions in the Capp Amendment which is replacing the Stupak-Pitt Amendment. </p>

<p><a href="http://www.salon.com/life/broadsheet/feature/2009/11/19/senate_bill/index.html">Tracy-Flora Clark at Broadsheet tells us,</a></p>

<blockquote>The key details of the Senate bill are as follows: Both public and private plans are allowed to offer abortion coverage. It empowers consumers to use government subsidies to purchase insurance that covers abortion, but requires that their premiums (and not federal funds) pay for the actual procedures. The Health and Human Services Secretary is charged with evaluating plans to ensure that taxpayers do not pay for abortions. And, while the bill requires at least one plan in each state to cover abortion, it also includes a conscience clause stating that healthcare providers cannot "be discriminated against because of a willingness or an unwillingness ... to provide, pay for, provide coverage of, or refer for abortions."</blockquote>

<p>This move is a much better option, although as mcjoan mentions it feels hard to celebrate the continuation of the Hyde Amendment, but it is not as aggressive as the Stupak-Pitt Amendment. Our reproductive rights will be used as bargaining chips and <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/20/health/policy/20health.html?_r=2&scp=1&sq=harry%20reid,%20abortion&st=cse">some are saying it is unlikely that Stupak will be in the final version of the Bill. </a></p>

<p>But to prepare for any impending disaster, There will be a <a href="http://www.now.org/issues/health/stupak_action.html">National Day of Action on December 2nd</a> in D.C., along with a November 21st Rally in PA, November 23rd in DC and December 4th through NOW-NY to stand up against the Stupak-Pitt Amendment. </p>

<p>Leave any actions near you in comments. </p>

<p>Related:</p>

<p><a href="http://www.feministing.com/archives/018968.html">Study: Stupak will end abortion coverage "for all women"</a><br />
<a href="http://www.feministing.com/archives/018937.html">From Hyde to Stupak, over 30 years of limiting access to abortion</a><br />
<a href="http://www.feministing.com/archives/018858.html">Beyond Stupak: The next phase of the abortion debate</a><br />
<a href="http://www.feministing.com/archives/018779.html">Whose health care victory?</a><br />
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<entry>
    <title>Transgender Day of Remembrance 2009</title>
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    <published>2009-11-20T13:56:47Z</published>
    <updated>2009-11-20T15:32:14Z</updated>

    <summary>Today is the 11th annual Transgender Day of Remembrance. This day was created as a time to grieve trans and gender non-conforming people killed over the past year because of fear and hatred. It also serves as a time to...</summary>
    <author>
        <name>Jos</name>
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        <![CDATA[<p><img src="http://i276.photobucket.com/albums/kk34/feministing/eleventh1.jpg" alt="Eleventh International Transgender Day of Remembrance November 20, 2009" align="left" hspace="15">Today is the 11th annual <a href="http://www.transgenderdor.org/?page_id=4">Transgender Day of Remembrance</a>. This day was created as a time to grieve trans and gender non-conforming people killed over the past year because of fear and hatred. It also serves as a time to raise awareness about violence against trans folks. The event was started by Gwendolyn Ann Smith following the murder of Rita Hester on November 28, 1998. Every year since the day's founding vigils and memorial events have been held in the US and increasingly all over the world.</p>

<p>This year the TGEU Trans Murder Monitoring project TDOR 2009 update has collected information about <a href="http://www.tgeu.org/tdor2009english#t-dor-en2">over 160 people killed</a> because of other people's violent reaction to their trans presentation or identity. These numbers represent only those people we know about. We don't know how many trans folks were actually murdered this year - our identities are so rarely recognized and there is still so little awareness about trans issues and the violence trans folks face that it is safe to say many murders of trans folks went unreported.</p>

<p>Finding accurate information to identify murder victims as trans or killed because of their gender presentation is a consistent challenge. Just this week the brutal murder of Jorge Steven Lopez Mercado was reported as that of a "gay teen" with male pronouns used when referring to Lopez Mercado. There has been very little coverage of the fact that Lopez Mercado was a sex worker <a href="http://www.pamshouseblend.com/diary/14158/trans-erasure-again-in-the-coverage-of-the-puerto-rico-hate-crime-victim">with a female presentation</a>. Murder suspect Juan antonio Martinez Matos said he thought Lopez Mercado was female but then "realized that the teenager was actually male."</p>

<p>I don't know how Lopez Mercado identified, but Martinez Matos' statement tells us that they didn't conform to his strict understanding of gender: Martinez Matoz thought Lopez Mercado was female and then changed his opinion, the reason given for the murder. So Lopez Mercado's name has been <a href="http://www.transgenderdor.org/?page_id=555">added to the list</a> of those we remember.</p>

<p>Many of those we have mourned over the years originally had their murders reported as the killing of a gay male. For most we still don't know how they identified. But Lopez Mercado's murder reflects those of too many others killed when presenting a gender other than that assigned to them at birth. Some may not have identified as trans but all were killed because of hatred directed towards those who break the strict rules of the compulsory gender binary. They were killed because they did not conform to what someone else thought their gender should be.</p>

<p>The media's consistent failure to accurately identify trans folks reflects the erasure of and refusal to recognize our identities, lived experiences, and even our very existence. Information that identifies a murder victim as the target of anti-trans violence is often presented in the same way Martinez Matos' story has been reported: the murderer thought the victim was a woman and killed them when they realized they were actually male and panicked. This narrative erases trans identities, legitimizes perceived physical sex over gender presentation, and paints trans folks as desceptive and the murderer as tricked, suggesting possible justification for murder. Media narratives end up contributing to the culture of violence and hatred targeted towards trans folks by legitimizing this "trans panic" narrative that gives the responsibility for explaining the murder victim's identity to the very person who killed them.<br />
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        <![CDATA[<p>Based on the murders we know about traditional sexism plays a huge role in who is killed: most people on the list each year had a feminine gender presentation. Other intersections of oppression seem to increase the likelihood of being targeted by anti-trans violence as well. Most of the people on the list are black or Latin@. And many were sex workers, a job that is <a href="http://www.choiceusa.org/index.php?option=com_wrapper&view=wrapper&Itemid=80&p=921">often the only option</a> for trans folks facing employment discrimination, rejection by family and friends, and high drop out rates from school because of harassment. </p>

<p>As a trans person I know I am a potential target of violence. However, as a person with white privilege not engaging in potentially dangerous work to survive I know I am less at risk than many other trans folks. This certainly gives me pause on Trans Day of Remembrance. I am lucky enough to have access to a pretty big platform when I want to raise awareness about the trans-related issues I care and know most about. Most of the people killed never had the opportunity to share their stories in such a public way. </p>

<p>I share something with everyone who was killed, but there are also major differences between my life experiences and those of most of the people we are remembering. I raise this point because I often feel a degree of appropriation in Trans Day of Remembrance. Many people are entering this day remembering lost friends and loved ones, people with whom they share life experience. But even many trans folks like myself have a very different life story from those killed. While I feel a strong personal connection to this day I also know the stories are not my own. I can mourn but also recognize important power differentials that make other trans folks more likely targets of violence. We must avoid using the stories of those killed to advance consciousness raising projects and a political agenda that is about the needs of trans folks with more relative power and privilege. Instead, we need to be continually working to build a politics that centers the voices and needs of those who are most vulnerable, even within already marginalized populations.</p>

<p>This year there are Transgender Day of Remembrance events occurring in over 120 locations. A <a href="http://www.tgeu.org/tdor2009english#t-dor-en3">list of events can be found here</a>, though there may be an event at a city near you that is not listed so I recommend searching for "Transgender Day of Remembrance" and the nearest city if you would like to participate in a vigil or memorial.</p>]]>
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<entry>
    <title>What We Missed </title>
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    <published>2009-11-19T22:17:16Z</published>
    <updated>2009-11-19T22:17:19Z</updated>

    <summary>Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid&apos;s health care overhaul package, released last night, doesn&apos;t throw women under the bus. Jessica Wakeman over at The Frisky: &quot;Really, Vogue? I don&apos;t care that Clinton does her own makeup and (still) wears brightly colored...</summary>
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        <name>Courtney</name>
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        <![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2009/11/19/us/politics/1119-plan-comparison.html?hp">Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid's health care overhaul package, released last night, doesn't throw women under the bus.<br />
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<a href="http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-do-you-really-care-who-does-hillary-clintons-makeup/">Jessica Wakeman over at The Frisky</a>: "Really, Vogue? I don't care that Clinton does her own makeup and (still) wears brightly colored pantsuits." </p>

<p><a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/17/world/africa/17zambia.html?scp=1&sq=Zambia%20judge%20photos&st=cse">"A Zambian newspaper editor was acquitted Monday on charges of distributing obscene materials with the intent of corrupting public morals, a case filed against her after she sent photos of a woman in childbirth to government officials and other prominent figures."</a></p>

<p><a href="http://www.haaretz.com/hasen/spages/1129040.html">"Police on Wednesday arrested a woman who was praying at the Western Wall in Jerusalem, due to the fact that she was wrapped in a prayer shawl (tallit)."</a><br />
<a href="http://www.cnn.com/2009/CRIME/11/18/puerto.rico.gay.teen.slain/index.html?eref=igoogle_cnn"><br />
"The suspect in the brutal slaying of a gay teenager in Puerto Rico was charged Wednesday with first-degree murder and four other counts."</a></p>

<p>One hate crime is too many. Two is almost unfathomable: <a href="http://loldarian.blogspot.com/2009/11/baltimore-gay-teen-murdered.html">15-year-old Jason Mattison Jr. was buried in Baltimore today.</a> </p>

<p><a href="http://videogum.com/archives/an_open_letter/an_open_letter_to_the_ladies_o_101761.html">An open letter to the ladies of The View about their dismissive reaction to rape. </a><br />
<a href="http://www.thenewstribune.com/news/northwest/story/956286.html"><br />
Apparently Palin isn't the only Alaskan woman who is into victim-blaming.</a></p>]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>Kiki Smith at the Sackler Center for Feminist Art</title>
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    <published>2009-11-19T21:06:41Z</published>
    <updated>2009-11-19T21:12:41Z</updated>

    <summary>I just went to a really cool event at the Brooklyn Museum of Art where Kiki Smith, artist, and, Catherine J. Morris, Curator of the Elizabeth A. Sackler Center for Feminist Art, had a conversation about Smith&apos;s work, it&apos;s intersections...</summary>
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        <name>Courtney</name>
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        <![CDATA[<p><img src="http://i276.photobucket.com/albums/kk34/feministing/kiki-smith.jpg"width="300" align="right" vspace="5" hspace="5">I just went to <a href="http://www.brooklynmuseum.org/exhibitions/kiki_smith/">a really cool event at the Brooklyn Museum of Art</a> where Kiki Smith, artist, and, Catherine J. Morris, Curator of the Elizabeth A. Sackler Center for Feminist Art, had a conversation about Smith's work, it's intersections with feminism, themes of the body, the personal as political etc. </p>

<p>If you aren't familiar with <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kiki_Smith">Kiki Smith's work</a>, you should definitely check it out. She's dealt with a wide range of fascinating themes over the course of her career in all sorts of mediums (many of them previously positioned as the "manly" variety). </p>

<p>I was so struck by her stage presence. She was truly in her body, so authentic that I was a bit disarmed. It was clear that she didn't feel any compulsion to play the part of the highly articulate, beyond-it-all artist; she just was. And in her "just being," she said some really profound, simple things. Given my <a href="http://views.washingtonpost.com/pundit-judges/2009/11/capeharts_video_critique.html">recent experience of being criticized for my voice, my idealism etc.</a>, it felt awesome to be reminded how refreshing and critical it is to be comfortable with your own authentic identity in public.</p>

<p>Here are a few of my favorite quotations from the afternoon.</p>

<p>On the personal is political vibe in the 70s:<br />
"You realized what was happening outside your house was also going on inside your house." </p>

<p>On art making:<br />
"Embrace the fragility. Embrace what is tentative."</p>

<p>On resisting hegemonic art norms of what's hip or trendy: <br />
"I don't want to be owned by ideology."</p>]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>Feminist Masculinity Round Up </title>
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    <published>2009-11-19T20:00:00Z</published>
    <updated>2009-11-19T20:04:41Z</updated>

    <summary>I got so many amazing emails after publishing my column last week about masculinity and pro-feminist men and plenty of blogs picked up on the analysis and added their own, as well. I wanted to share some of the excerpts...</summary>
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        <name>Courtney</name>
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        <![CDATA[<p>I got so many amazing emails after publishing <a href="http://www.prospect.org/cs/articles?article=whats_the_alternative_to_tucker_max">my column last week</a> about masculinity and pro-feminist men and plenty of blogs picked up on the analysis and added their own, as well. I wanted to share some of the excerpts here:</p>

<p><strong><a href="http://www.mencanstoprape.org/info-url_nocat2701/info-url_nocat_show.htm?doc_id=1080874">From Joe Samalin and Joseph Vess of Men Can Stop Rape:</a></strong><br />
The thousands of men and boys that we engage every year show us daily what healthy masculinity looks like. It is a group of high school boys volunteering at a local domestic violence shelter, it is straight and cis-gendered college men partnering as allies with LGBTQ student organizations, and it is the enlisted men and officers in the Air Force who come to us for training on how to create safer workplaces. These boys and men are all moving deliberately toward who they want to be.</p>

<p>Putting the support and encouragement of healthy masculinity at the center of what we do has taught us two key things. First, there is no single definition or ideal of healthy masculinity--there are as many definitions as there are men. Second, developing healthy, authentic masculinity is a journey, not a destination.</p>

<p><strong>Jonathan Grove:</strong><br />
I was presenting at that very conference, and perhaps the most interesting conversation was in the last session, which was a talk back type session to adopt a statement about what happened there and what our mission is. The conversation eventually became about whether to continue the practice of men naming the violence as "men's violence against women" and focusing on what men can do, or whether to name it as violence perpetrated by male people who identify with and try to emulate the hegemonic model of masculinity that is the tradition in our culture. While I realize in the context I've described it seems very unwieldy to talk about it in that way I described last, I think there's an important point there.</p>

<p>Jonathan also told me about <a href="http://whereisyourline.org/2009/11/sexist-boyhood-in-urban-new-jersey/">this amazing post</a> by Ronan, who was also at the conference. </p>

<p><strong><a href="http://hugoschwyzer.net/2009/11/16/eloquent-in-self-deprecation-inarticulate-in-self-celebration-on-masculinity-and-the-male-feminist-dilemma/">Hugo Schwyzer:</a></strong><br />
The solution is both obvious and problematic: we need public role models who are willing to show through their actions as well as their words what it means to lead a feminist life while in a male body. We need men who are willing to walk the walk publicly, allowing themselves to be scrutinized and questioned. </p>

<p><strong><a href="http://feministsforchoice.com/redefining-masculinity-are-feminist-men-getting-the-job-done.htm">AJ from Feminists for Choice:</a></strong><br />
Although I agree with a large majority of what Courtney is saying, part of me thinks we should cut the guys a little slack. I mean, we have to start somewhere, don't we? In fact, many great feminist thinkers have made the argument that it is necessary for us to reject old systems of thinking before laying out a blueprint of the future. Revolution isn't easy, and it most certainly doesn't happen over night, however; I do understand where Courtney is coming from. As feminist men, if all our time is spent on problematizing masculinity and defining what we are not, then when are we going to decide what we are?</p>]]>
        <![CDATA[<p><strong><a href="http://womensrights.change.org/blog/view/do_you_know_what_a_feminist_man_looks_like">Alex Dibranco of Change.org</a>:</strong><br />
This is the same kind of argument I often hear from young women who, despite fully supporting gender equality, don't want to be "labeled" as a feminist. Which makes me wonder: Do men really lack an alternative to "toxic masculinity"? Or is it just that even these gender-conscious youths still have trouble fully identifying themselves as feminist--balking, like too many women's rights supporters, from a conception of themselves that should be empowering? Moreover, the concept of a "feminist masculinity" seems unnecessary, and if anything detrimental, to the goal of combating sexism and homophobia in that it continues to present men and their "masculinity" in opposition to women. What if everyone just worked toward being a decent (feminist) person?</p>

<p><strong>Jeff Ryan:</strong><br />
While I agree that it seems there was a lack of vision, perhaps the recognition of this performative nature of being a 'man' is something to celebrate. The men there were choosing not to perform as a Tucker Max or Bill O, and are instead acknowledging the façade and further admitting their lack of one. If all the problems are due to the fact that the sexist masculine stereotype is simply an act, then not acting is actually quite an accomplishment, and it seems like the students you were with have realized this. What I believe they are acknowledging is that what Max and the others espouse is not, in fact, natural to the male sex, but instead a symptom of the male gender. What you discussed in your article was the definition of 'man' and how they were trying to recreate that properly, to define the new, modern man. They certainly did not do that, but they did take us back to being male--a man without the pathetic and desperate act for approval, if you will--, and from there we can recreate what a 'man' truly is.</p>

<p><strong>Tal Peretz:</strong><br />
So, then, why do we need masculinity, if all the positive traits associated with it are just as easily associated with humanity, and all that's left as decisively masculine is harmful?</p>

<p><strong>David Pitcher:</strong><br />
My boys thank me often because young ladies are amazed at their fresh perspectives regarding gender. I raised them by example to honor and respect women as a great balancing force. I try to do so with the math classes I teach as I insist that girls are treated with respect and that boys who choose to show openness rather than machismo are respected.<br />
 <br />
Boys are so paranoid about appearing feminine that they adapt a "culture of cruelty" and retreat into the common male role. How can we raise our boys to break this pattern?<br />
</p>]]>
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<entry>
    <title>Libyan Leader Stages Strange Conversion Soiree </title>
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    <published>2009-11-19T19:17:03Z</published>
    <updated>2009-11-19T19:24:23Z</updated>

    <summary>File this under WTF. From the New York Times: The 200 women who answered a Rome modeling agency&apos;s advertisement for tall, attractive party guests thought they would be attending an elegant soirée on Sunday. They were -- only the host...</summary>
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        <name>Courtney</name>
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        <![CDATA[<p><img src="http://i276.photobucket.com/albums/kk34/feministing/articleLarge.jpg"width="200" align="right" vspace="5" hspace="5">File this under WTF. <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/17/world/europe/17rome.html?_r=1&scp=2&sq=Libya%20&st=cse">From <em>the New York Times</em></a>:<br />
<blockquote>The 200 women who answered a Rome modeling agency's advertisement for tall, attractive party guests thought they would be attending an elegant soirée on Sunday. They were -- only the host turned out to be the Libyan leader, Col. Muammar el-Qaddafi, and instead of hors d'oeuvres he offered them copies of the Koran and urged them to convert to Islam.</blockquote></p>

<p>Colonel Qaddafi, by the by, was in Rome for <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/aponline/2009/11/16/world/AP-EU-UN-FoodSummit.html?scp=1&sq=World%20Summit%20on%20Food%20Security&st=cse">the World Summit on Food Security</a> of the Food and Agriculture Organization of the United Nations. While Qaddafi was trying to convince young Italian cuties of his political and religious philosophies over glasses of wine and fancy apps, international leaders were pledging to substantially increase aid to agriculture in developing nations, where the majority of the world's 1 billion hungry people live.</p>

<p>Be warned Italian supermodels, according to ANSA News Agency, Colonel Qaddafi is cooking up similar bizzaro schemes with other groups of women through out the week.</p>]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>Girls Comment on Social Media</title>
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    <published>2009-11-19T18:05:02Z</published>
    <updated>2009-11-19T18:03:22Z</updated>

    <summary>The Women&apos;s Media Center (WMC) and Girls Learn International are collaborating to launch Girls Investigate: Our Views on Media, a four-part multimedia series that explores girls&apos; ideas about popular culture, social media and the intersections between the two. Check out...</summary>
    <author>
        <name>Courtney</name>
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        <![CDATA[<p>The Women's Media Center (WMC) and Girls Learn International are collaborating to launch <strong><em>Girls Investigate: Our Views on Media</em></strong>, a four-part multimedia series that explores girls' ideas about popular culture, social media and the intersections between the two.<br />
 <br />
Check out the first one:<br />
<embed src="http://blip.tv/play/hIw0gbCTQgI" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" width="480" height="283" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true"></embed> </p>

<p>A transcript wasn't provided, but you can read more about the 17-year-old producers' perspective <a href="http://womensmediacenter.com/wordpress/2009/11/girls-investigate-pop-culture-problems-social-media-snags-by-julia-lo/">here</a>. </p>]]>
        
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