What We Missed
Purity pushers are bringing sexy back.
Carl's Jr. says Padma is "more than just a piece of meat." Well that's a relief.
The Daily Mail (always good for a laugh) says that "modern women are turning their husbands into 'male-female hybrids'" by wanting silly things like equitable division of household chores.
A new study says that female managers are three times as likely as their male peers to underrate their bosses' opinions of their work.
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I'm sexy enough to keep you waiting
Her over there? Damn that chick is so fugly she should be grateful anyone wants her and put right out.
Seriously, what kind of message is "sexy enough to keep you waiting"?
was just noodling around the candies site.
http://www.candiesfoundation.org/img_popup2.html?fallout_700.jpg
NOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!! falloutboy what have you done? and come on, with lyrics like "wishing to be the friction in your jeans" and the like they are hardly to poster boys for abstinence.
NOT FALL OUT BOY!
Damn you abstinence!!!!
My god I love them too.....=(
It's a funny message actually. It implies that anyone who waits long enough can have sex with the wearer of the shirt. If I ever see anyone wearing this shirt I will jot my name and number down on the back to enter this contest. I hope I lose. Honestly, sex with a virgin is likely the worst sex one will ever have. Why do these virgins wish to force this on the "one true love of their life."
Do we have to shame virgins or those that choose not to have sex in order to point out the ridiculousness of the nature of the Candies Foundation? Uncool, dudes.
"Do we have to shame virgins or those that choose not to have sex in order to point out the ridiculousness of the nature of the Candies Foundation? Uncool, dudes."
Yeah, prude-shaming is no better than slut-shaming!
"sex with a virgin is likely the worst sex one will ever have. Why do these virgins wish to force this on the "one true love of their life.""
I agree with the comment below-why shame people who choose to wait just because it's not what you would do? They have the right to make an individual choice. The problem isn't people who make honest sincere choices that work for their own lives. The commodification and imposition is the problem-the people who say, "oh, waiting is the ONLY thing to do, if you don't, you go to hell you slut blah blah blah and so forth" and the people who make money off of that attitude. I think your statement was sort of a broad generalization and unnecessarily cruel.
er-the comment above, even.
For the record, I don’t believe your comment is “virgin shaming.” In fact, I laughed. I will however answer your question.
First, I agree, sex with a virgin is probably not the best sex one will ever have. I was one of those virgins who “forced” this bad sex on my more experienced partner. He, however, did not have any complaints.
Second, and more importantly, why do virgins wish to force this [bad sex] on the “one true love of their life”? This is super obvious, but virginity is still highly valued in our society. So the perceived value of being a virgin is more than the perceived value of “good sex.” Until our society separates virginity from morality, virgins will continue to force horrible sex on the “one true love of their life.”
"...Second, and more importantly, why do virgins wish to force this [bad sex] on the 'one true love of their life'? This is super obvious, but virginity is still highly valued in our society..."
Also, love during sex is highly valued by some people in our society and others, whether it's the first or second or hundredth or thousandth time one of these people has sex.
If a person doesn't want to have sex with someone else instead of someone she or he loves, then no wonder she or he doesn't want to have sex the first time with someone else instead of someone she or he loves.
Likewise, I don't feel comfortable with the idea of me ever having sex with someone I don't love and trust.
Why on Earth should I "get it over with" by settling for "bad sex" with someone I can't trust to be honest about STIs, not dump me the morning after, not tell his friends "hey, guess what a hairy freak she really is when she wakes up!!!", etc. instead of having sex my first time (if I ever have sex, which isn't guaranteed) with someone whom I love and trust?
"...Until our society separates virginity from morality, virgins will continue to force horrible sex on the 'one true love of their life.'..."
Oh, it would take more than just separating virginity from morality. It would also take removing having-sex-one's-first-time from the having-sex category and putting having-sex-one's-first-time into the not-having-sex category. o_O
That's exactly the first thought I had. Pretty girls are sexy enough to make you wait, but ugly girls better give it up.
On a side note - I couldn't find any size information for the shirts, other than small, medium, and large. It's been my experience that women's shirts tend to run on the small side. And since these are aimed at young women, they're probably junior sizes.
The Daily Mail is indeed always good for a laugh... or good for a cry. I like how their website is divided into two halves. On the left is the hard news section for the tough, male minds able to handle news on wars and parliament elections. On the right is the clearly labeled "FEMAIL" section for the ditzy womenfolk to get the latest news on Posh and Britney without having to trouble their pretty little heads over the latest blunder by the Brown government.
Classic.
" On the right is the clearly labeled "FEMAIL" section for the ditzy womenfolk "
I didnt even notice that till you pointed out. Pure shit and unnacceptable, even for the Daily Mail.
Oh, Padma. Do you need the money so very badly?
okay so now we are going to be so blatantly sexist as to say that its okay to have men ogle you and its okay to be a pretty little object but its not okay for you to enjoy why they want you to look at you in the first place? So we are seriously going to be as mysoginistic as we could be
Why they enjoy isnt important. Sheesh. Why are you even on a feminist blog?
you misunderstood what I said. I was saying that they are now saying that its okay for men to ogle you, but its not okay for you to having sex, which the sexual attraction is the reason they are looking in the first place, not that its okay for them to ogle you, I was pointing out the rediculousness of their blatant sexism.
Oops. Sorry about the misinterpretation!
i agree that the daily mail article is good for a laugh. god forbid my dainty hands lift the phone and dare to call a plumber or book a hotel. i guess i'll just keep swimming in sewer waste until my knight in shining armour can make the phone call for me.
The ex-vegetarian ad just makes it that much more infuriating.
Especially considering that Padma has been an ex-vegetarian long before she signed with Carls, Jr and as a gourmet chef, no doubt ate meat dishes of far superior quality than a greasy fast food burger.
"As a result men are abandoning their natural manly instincts"
Whenever I hear/read shit like that I think of one of my favorite professors asking the class, "How many of your parents gain their full-time living from hunting and gathering?"
You think the screenshot of the Padma ad is bad, you should see the TV version (done for Hardees, the East Coast Carl's Jr.)...Padma wanders hrough a marketplace in filmy, cleavage-baring dress and ankle-shattering heels, then sits on the steps of a building and proceeds to have oral sex with, um, eat a BBQ Thickburger. To do this, though, she needs to hike her dress up nearly to her waist and lean over until she almost falls out of her wispy bodice. A drop of sauce falls on her ankle and she wipes it off with a finger, then proceeds to lick that finger clean with orgasmic delight (apparently she forgot to get napkins with her burger). And then comes the tagline, "More than just a piece of meat."
I want to throw stuff at the TV every time I see that ad, and it and the rest of Hardees sexist, dude-centric "hur hur hur" ads have ensured that I will never eat there again. (That and the fact that their food is vile.)
Carl's Jr. has made several of these disgusting commercials, including ones with Audrina Patridge and Paris Hilton. Audrina is on the beach in a skimpy bikini eating a huge burger, talking about how the burger is her weakness during bikini season (and god forbid she eat anything substantial during bikini season) and posing for closeups on her assets. *eyeroll* Paris Hilton's ad consists of her washing a car in another revealing swimsuit and eating a burger. I wonder if they realize the irony of that tagline, "More than just a piece of meat."
Something I just recently came across was an interview of Lady Gaga. I was recently appalled by her music videos and they way she portrays women as having to wear revealing clothes and have sex to be accepted, just like the usual music scene, but I was surfing youtube and found the interview. The title seemed interesting, so I watched it. They interviewer is just plain annoying and asks about her sex life and sexual references in her music. She eventually get angered and says that he's judging her because she's a sexual female who creates pop music instead of a sexual male who makes rock music, then she goes on to say, "I'm not a feminist, I hail men, I love men. I celebrate American male culture..."
Excuse me Lady Gaga, but being a feminist doesn't mean we hate men.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IkzxwrdyRw0&eurl=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.feministing.com%2F&feature=player_embedded
This was addressed last week. Here's the link, if you would like to read the discussion:
http://www.feministing.com/archives/017046.html
I wrote a little satirical piece on the ridiculous Daily Mail article:
http://clarissasbox.blogspot.com/2009/08/letter-to-man-i-love.html
I wish I could be a male-female hybrid, atleast for a day.
I think there is a lot of friction in relationships because of housework, and not because women are being "decisive" in the office and can't turn that off at home but because they have been working all day! They're working all day and don't want to come home to doing all the housework on top of it! I am not getting the implication from the article that women are demanding unreasonable chores, but rather demanding that their husbands actually do THEIR FAIR SHARE of the housework. Yes, it isn't manly and probably a lot of guys grew up in households where they weren't expected to do that stuff and didn't see their dads doing it. So what? And calling the plumber and booking travel was a male household task? Phht! I might give them something like lawn care and automotive maintenance, but booking travel? How often do you need to do that?
And I really doubt the end result is that women resent their husbands becoming "subservient" men - I bet the resentment comes naturally after years of having to nag and threaten and cajole husbands into doing their fair share of housework.
There's a great book about this called "The Second Shift." I read it for an intro. Sociology class in my freshman year of college, and it really opened my eyes - not just to the power dynamics involved with who does housework and how much, but also to just how lucky I was to have a father who was so heavily involved with housework and taking care of me and my brother.
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I am not saying the daily mail is wrong. Most women yearn for men which, under a rational point of view, are not much good in todays world.
So what is wrong if we take a more realistic approach in how we want our mates ? It reminds me of chris tucker, when he said Gulliani is great, in a crisis.
We do not need nobody to be hunting, the police protects us, if we get assaulted it is because we are ALONE somewhere so it does not make a difference really if he is a mans man or not all that tough.
What is wrong with wanting and in between for a partner, who instead waiting in front of the TV for a bear or mammut to fend off, helps with the chores ?
Saw this on the Candies website (the purity pushers from the first link...)
"60: The percentage of teens who wish they'd waited longer to have sex. 50: The percentage of teens who say they're still virgins."
Later on: "Over half of all teens are not having sex."
Something doesn't add up here.