Quick Hit: Emotional intelligence leads to better sex.
(NSFW. It's Madonna!)
They needed a study to prove that emotional intelligence leads to better sex for women. You mean knowing yourself and your body helps you have orgasms? OK, OK, if this helps more people figure out that women have brains and those brains help them figure out how to have orgasms, then that's cool by me.
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captain obvious strikes again!
not to derail, but has anyone else ever noticed the race play in that video? w the black woman getting spanked by madonna?
What should the feministing variant of "Godwin's law" be called? "Dworkin's Law"?
Um, can we analyze what got censored and what didn't? Why is "shit" worthy of being covered with the thumps but "bitch" is completely unedited? W.T.F?
because bitch is a female dog, dontchyaknow?
Or I guess you could make a case based on the Bitch Manifest.
I took the replacement to be intentional and symbolic, not censorship (though I could certainly be wrong). It seemed to me that the 'knock' was the sound of a door closing, and that hanging your shit on someone is only closing doors, or leading to your lover walking out on you, or whatever else a closing door could stand for.
Just a possible alternative; sometimes a sound may say more than an uncensored word could.
my FAV madonna video!
I'm so sick and tired of this patriarchal propaganda. The next thing we are going to hear is the same old hugely offensive silliness that "for women, sex is about emotions and intimacy, while for men, it's about the purely physical."
This so-called study is not about women having brains. Is about denying us the right to have sex just for the physical pleasure. Once again, women who separate sex and love or sex and emotions are somehow wrong.
I agree. I find it irritating that so much is attributed to emotion in female sexuality. From my experience, when I have an orgasm, it's a mechanical process. Sure, it's really great to have an emotional connection to my sex partner, but it's not necessary to enjoy the physical feeling of sex. You could argue that people who are emotionally involved with each other care more about sharing pleasure (I personally agree). But to say that it's necessary is ridiculous. I see this whole "women need to be in love to enjoy sex" thing as just another way to uphold the old notion that women don't really enjoy sex for the sake of sex. It's so Victorian.
The title of this article should read: "If You Can't Orgasm, Ladies, It's ALL YOUR FAULT because you are EMOTIONALLY STUNTED". Wait, who sponsored this study, the Men With Big Egos Who Refuse To Take Reponsibility For Being Good Lovers Council?
This article insults every single woman who has ever had difficulty orgasming because she is a sexual assault survivor, not to mention: women who've been shamed by religion into devaluing their sexuality, women who've been taught to suppress their sexuality because Nice Girls Don't, women who experience shitty sex at the hands and other appendages of shitty lovers, women who have undiagnosed medical conditions impeding their sexual response, women who suffer from psychological issues impeding their sexual response, women in dysfunctional relationships, women who are naturally asexual, etc. Some woman somewhere is going to read this article and think GEE, I HAVE TROUBLE ORGASMING, THEREFORE I MUST NEED THERAPY TO BECOME MORE EMOTIONALLY ENLIGHTENED.
As always, women's problems are the direct result of women's deficiencies. SSDD.
It may not be well-received but knowing oneself and knowing one's body does not equate to being emotionally intelligent. There's a difference.
I know myself quite well, and I know my body quite well, but I am not emotionally intelligent and that shows a LOT when I relate to other human beings.
I know my own body intimately, and I know my psyche intimately, but relations with other humans are an issue due to my lack of emotional intelligence. Hence, no matter my own rational knowledge of myself and my body, my sex-life is often troubled because I relate very poorly to other people - even intimate partners.
Please read up on the topic before y'all go on a bashing spree.