I remember that last year in art class I mentioned Bisexuality Day. Some people said that's fine but if they made a Heterosexuality Day it would be called discriminatory. I said, of course because everyday is Heterosexuality Day.

*cheer*
Both for being Bi and for Toni's comment!

Yay for Bi Day! And boo for bi erasure!

I probably should have known there was a Bisexuality Day...oh well! yay!

Yay! Although, the fact that I didn't know this probably means I should get involved with a local bi group, huh? Anyone have good/bad experiences with a Boston-area bi organization/support group?

I'm not really surprised that no one ever mentions bisexuality day. Bis tend to be outcasted in both straight & queer communities. :(

Yay for Bi Day! I celebrated by being myself. ;) Glad to at least see this included on one of the major blogs.

Another reader happy to get an acknowledgment of Bi day:) Yay!

hip hip hooray (sorry, i'm a day late...i didn't know either).

to RedPersephone:
I've never been involved, but my roommate is part of an organization in Boston called Mad Femme Pride that (despite Femme being in the name) is an all-inclusive queer group. From what I've heard, they are very welcoming of bi folk (and all folk for that matter). I know they're on meetup.com.

on another note, how do people feel about the terms Bi and Bisexual? i usually just say, "i date men and women" but i'd like a more succinct way of putting it. i have a little bit of trouble with how biological the term bisexual is. like it is specifically talking about who i fuck and not something greater about my identity.

laura e-l, I feel the same way and I think it's because the term "bisexual" has been loudly used by college-aged women who want to make it known that they'll sleep with women, not because they're really attracted to them but because they're desperate for the male attention it brings. I've known enough of them in real life, and MySpace is just full of them.

To me, being bisexual means that someone has the potential to date both men and women - "date" meaning the full scope of a relationship a straight woman would have with a man. Sometimes it's just casual sex, yes, but it also includes being romantic partners just like any "traditional" boyfriend/girlfriend pairing.

I've only dated men, but I'm pretty sure that if I met the right woman, I'd date her. Does that make me bisexual? Who knows, but I'll at least say "Yay Bisexuality Day!" as an ally.

laura e-l, I like using "queer" at least in certain groups because it seems to be all-inclusive.

I'm with Marilove, I usually just refer to myself as queer. It has the additional bonus of making people go "buh-?" because they're never sure what you mean exactly. And I find that hilarious.

Alixana's right, though, about the bisexual-at-parties type, which has kinda tainted the term bisexual. Now, whenever I just say "bi" around guys I don't know, they immediately ask me either if I've had a threesome/if they can have a threesome with me and my girlfriend, or if they can watch. They don't bother to ask, of course, whether or not I *have* a girlfriend. It's just assumed. Oh, and if I correct them, it becomes, "You don't have a girlfriend? Here's my hot chick friend. Make out for my entertainment. Now."

Yeah. Queer's way easier.

Hope everyone had a fun Bisexuality day, but "the always knowledgeable wikipedia" is not always to be trusted. Please see my essay, currently here, on one of many assaults on feminist and gender equality issues that have occurred at the open encyclopedia recently.

Cheers.

samhita, I was disturbed to find out that you deleted my other comments I made from my other posts, including the one I made on the post called "John Mccain has suspending his campaign, calls for obama to do the same, my comment read "I think this is a selfless and courageous thing Mccain is doing"- that's all it said.

Instead of telling me what was wrong with that post, you instead deleted it without anyone knowing or without telling anyone- not good samhita.

I have read the comments policy and would like to know in what way I violated it by making that comment.

This is a public blog and I would like to know why you are obviously controlling peoples opinions so much.

I think at least one other blogger at this website agreed with me- "Wow, so now commenter's with opposing viewpoints are belittled and then told to go away and never come back? Unfortunately, when you post on a public blog like this you open yourself up to criticism, as I'm sure all the other ladies who post here have noticed. If you don't want to hear other peoples' opinions, keep it on a private blog that only your friends can read" -After the way samhita treated me today, I'm afraid I am starting to agree with you, Morgan La Fey.

samhita, instead of cowardly deleting this comment, I think you need to explain you censorious actions to me and the other posters.

This is supposed to be a website where women can feel free to express their opinions without being belittled.

p.s. sorry guys for putting this comment on so many posts, I'm just afraid samhita will delete it before you guys can see how bad samhita has gotten lately when it comes to deleating people's dissenting opinions

p.s. sorry guys for putting this comment on so many posts, I'm just afraid samhita will delete it before you guys can see how bad samhita has gotten lately when it comes to deleating people's different points of view

My opinion on the term bisexual fluctuates. Sometimes I get pissed about people who are clearly bisexual refusing to own the term, and at the same time, I am irritated by people who are clearly not bisexual using it. However, it has been my experience that the former is actually much more common than the latter. There are plenty of girls who will make out with another girl at a party, and I am happy to help those girls out (hey, i'm an opportunist), and it is clear that while they are mostly straight, they at least enjoy it. But if you ask about their sexual orientation, they invariably say "straight" or "straight, but" or at the very most "bi-curious". I despise the term bi-curious. It means "I kinda like chicks but I'm afraid to identify as any sort of queer." I guess I shouldn't be judgemental about another person's confusion about their sexual orientation; i've totally been there. But at the same time there is a clear aversion to the bisexual identity, even for people who aren't homophobic, and beyond being irritating it contributes to bi invisibility.

As for me, it depends on the situation. I call myself a 4.7 on the Kinsey scale, for those who get what that means. I am bi, but I really identify as a dyke. I'm sexually attracted to men, no doubt, but I don't really want to date them and I LOVE being a dyke. So I usually just tell people I'm queer. Unless said person is a straight guy who's hitting on me/thinking about it. Then I am 100% lesbian. Even if I was interested (and 99% of the time, I am SO not), my wife says no men for me. Oh well, there's always gay porn...

I'm so with Alixana. I'm definately attracted to men and women, but chance and opportunity have led me to only date men. It leaves me a the weird position. I never know how to be honest about my gender id without looking like a "I kiss girls to turn guys on" faux-bisexual. Sigh. I haven't come out to many people yet, but it's mostly because I feel they wouldn't take it seriously. I guess I'm too straight (she said jokingly).

Nothing to celebrate as far as I am concerned.

Hell the bisexuals are probably even more screwed up than the people who are totally homosexual.